Thoughts of Others’ Sometimes Hurt

I was once told me that I was being fake in the way I presented myself in a specific setting. The person who said it was a close friend of mine so I was really confused by why they would say that. I thought about it for a while, and just when I had almost forgotten about his comment, someone else said something along the same lines. They weren’t as blunt, but they said I was a completely different person when I was speaking than when I was in the trenches of drudgery at work.

What I found was, and what they failed to realize, was maybe I found something I was passionate about enough to become who I really was. A side of me they hadn’t seen before. The side of me that truly cared about something.

The thought of others’ seeing me as being fake hurt at first, but I couldn’t let that stop me. My passion for what I was doing was too strong, and I wasn’t going to let the thoughts of others’ bring me down or stop me.


Their Thoughts Should Be Taken & Used Wisely

Sometimes though, our friends make good points. We hear something, and we should listen. This is why we should concern ourselves with what others think, sometimes. I am known by close friends to not concern myself with others think of me. Unfortunately, that can’t always be the case. Sometimes we are provided wise counsel, and it hurts to hear. It hurts to hear, but it is still something we should consider. This is why the thoughts of others’ sometimes matter. Don’t be quick to dismiss the thoughts of others’ when you receive them. Sometimes these can be very useful to grow and develop ourselves in the future.

When we think about “Iron Sharpens Iron” we often forget the process that takes place. The iron must be heated and beaten to become purified and sharp. Today we think about our quick fix of a knife sharpener. Even that has to grind away to sharpen the knife. The thoughts of others’ work the same way. We take their words & thoughts to refine ourselves and sharpen our skills.


Don’t Let their Thoughts Defeat Your Dream

Thoughts of Others

I can give you a list of people who were told they weren’t worth anything or failed time after time: Michael Jordan – Basketball, Oprah Winfrey – Television, Abraham Lincoln – Politics, Jim Carrey – Comedy, the list continues. All of these people were told they wouldn’t succeed because they failed before they succeeded. They didn’t listen. No one who has succeeded worried about the negative thoughts of others’. They knew their calling in this life, and they worked hard to succeed. We can’t be any different. When people say you can’t, it’s time to show them you can. If you’re told you’re fake, continue to show them the real you. Work hard and drive for your dream. Use their words, the thoughts of others’, to push you further and harder to achieve what they said you can’t.

People Aren’t Always Wrong

As much as I wish I could tell you success is nothing more than the ability to ignore negative people, I can’t. Even Michael Jordan failed. But he left us great words about his failures to teach us more about success. Keep Trying.

Sometimes you’ll hear the thoughts of others’, and they’ll be right. You will fail at what you want to do. That’s OK. If you don’t try, you’ll never know if you could succeed.

Failure is also viewed in a very negative light. To me, failure is a great opportunity to learn what we’ve done wrong, how to correct it, either try again or move on to something else. Anyway you really look at failure, it’s not a negative thing, unless you didn’t try. This is where the rubber meets the road. If you’re not willing to try because of what other people think, then you’ve given them power over you. The only One who has power over you is God, and He will direct your path as you continually seek to please Him. Even if that path leads to “failure.” Failure is a mindset. Take failure and turn it into a positive even if your critics were right (once). You can succeed, if you try, you are positively not going to succeed if you don’t.


Next Steps

What are you going to do? Are you going to allow the thoughts of others’ to dictate how you live your life? Are you going to stop trying because they said you can’t? Will you be willing to listen to wise counsel when it comes your way or ignore it and do things your way all the time?

We can’t have an attitude that others are always out to hurt us. We can’t believe everyone’s advice should always be followed. This is where discernment comes in. You have to know when the thoughts of others’ are good for you. I believe people usually say things to us out of genuine care, even if it’s “you can’t do that” or “you’re too fake.” How can you accurately know the difference between good advice and bad advice? That is a challenge all in itself. One I can’t give you in a short blog post.

I challenge you today to keep an open mind and receiving heart as advice comes your way on what to do next. Pray and ask for Godly wisdom to direct you. Listen to the thoughts of others’ and receive it in conjunction with the direction God has given you.



Parker Waldrop

Parker Waldrop has taken every opportunity in his career to train & develop others. With over 15 years of training & development experience, he has trained hundreds of employees, leaders, and students in a variety of areas of expertise. With a heart to please God, Parker has found his calling of helping develop others and help them follow their passion.

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