Have you ever made a New Year’s Resolution? How about a goal (even better) to accomplish something big in your life? I’m willing to bet; you began looking online for ways to do whatever it was you set your mind on. You probably found some sites that taught you the best way to change your behavior to accomplish said goal or resolution. Am I right?

Behavior “How’s” Are Fine and Dandy, but What If…

A great majority of blogs and websites exist today because people want to share HOW they’ve done something. Some of my favorite sites give extremely well thought out and amazing content on how we can change our behaviors to accomplish greatness.

Michael Hyatt, one of my all-time favorite bloggers, posted an article about “How to become a morning person” which spoke almost entirely on changing your behavior (except #2). This is a great article, which I completely agree with his ways of becoming a morning person, but if I don’t have a good reason to get up in the morning, I’m staying in bed.

A lot of sites online talk about the behavior modification you have to go through to achieve something. There’s nothing wrong with providing ways to do something, but

What if modifying our behavior ourselves doesn’t directly link to our success?

Think back to a time when you set a goal or resolution.

What were your intentions behind setting that goal?
Did you want to lose weight just to lose weight?
Did you want to write a book just to put words on a page and say you did it?


Maybe, did you want to lose weight to be healthy, live a longer life or be able to play with your kids?
Maybe you wanted to change someone’s life with a powerful message you thought they needed to hear?
Maybe you wanted to learn to love and follow God and have a deep relationship with him?

We all have reasons, but successful people who are able to change their behaviors and sustain a life-long passion towards their goals are the people who have transformed their heart. They know their WHY.


What’s Your Heart’s Why?

In a current book I’m reading, No Man Left Behind*, Patrick Morley talks about how churches need to stop focusing on behavior and start focusing on the heart.

Jesus said in Matthew 12:34 & 15:18-19:

“…out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks.” – Matthew 12:34b

But those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the man. 19 For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies:” – Matthew 15:18-19

Why aren’t we focusing more on our hearts? What’s our why? What’s driving us?

These are questions we need to sit down and think about as we consider changing our behaviors. When we change our heart, changing our behaviors will be much more lasting.


Next Steps to a Transformed Heart

  1. Prayer – Walking with God includes talking to Him and allowing Him to talk to you. Tell him what you’re dreams and desires are and open your heart to His guidance and wisdom. Doing this daily, you will be amazed how much your life can change.
  2. Bible Study – Along with prayer, God wants you to listen to Him through the Words He’s already spoken. Reading and studying people’s transformations in the Bible should inspire you.
  3. Join a Small Group or Find a Mentor – A small group or a mentor can be an outstanding way to change certain behaviors and learn how to change your heart. Share your life with someone who’s willing to share theirs with you.
  4. Find your Why – Why do you want to do what you want to do? Talk to God about it in prayer, and when He reveals to you your answer on where your heart lies, write it down. Share it with your small group, and keep that Why in focus.


Parker Waldrop

Parker Waldrop has taken every opportunity in his career to train & develop others. With over 15 years of training & development experience, he has trained hundreds of employees, leaders, and students in a variety of areas of expertise. With a heart to please God, Parker has found his calling of helping develop others and help them follow their passion.